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Who is my ideal client?

I actually work with both horses and humans, but because I doubt many of my four-legged clients will be reading this, I will focus my description below on my ideal human client.

The yellow pages and Internet search engines are jam-packed with listings and profiles of countless mental health professionals who specialize in all sorts of maladies, so one would think that choosing just the right one for you would be an easy task, but this isn't the case. In fact, I have found that even the decision of whether or not to get help, in the first place, can be difficult for many people. Sadly, many people who could truly benefit from counseling never make that first phone call or send that first email inquiry. So, while building this website, I tried to put myself in your shoes, imagining what it might be like to search for a good therapist, one who would listen and accept you without judgment while still being genuine enough to gently push you toward self-actualization. For some of you, the thought of seeing a therapist is a welcomed relief, because you may finally get to tell your story and be heard, but I also know there are others, especially those new to the field of counseling or those who have had an unpleasant experience with counseling in the past, who may be more hesitant in seeking help.

A brief description of my work:

It would be difficult for me to explain my ideal client without giving you at least a glimpse of the way I operate clinically, but because I have written about my counseling style on other pages within my website, I will touch on it only briefly here. My natural counseling style fits very closely with the Rogerian, or Person-Centered, model of psychotherapy. (You can read more about my natural Person-Centered style of counseling and how it developed through my work with horses by clicking here.) For those not familiar with the Rogerian model, it is based on the concept of congruence, which is the technical term for matching our behaviors on the outside with our true feelings on the inside.

The basic premise of this model is that we experience anxiety when our actions (on the outside) do not match our feelings (on the inside), causing a state of incongruence. For the most part, this is believed to occur when we behave in ways that please others rather than living in ways that please ourselves. Although this may sound simplistic on the surface, in truth it can drastically and negatively impact our sense of wellbeing to a great degree, especially when we lose sight of the things that have great meaning to us. Sometimes, perhaps out of our desire to get along with others or to make relationships work, we sacrifice small parts of ourselves, setting aside and eventually losing touch with our true feelings, our true identity. This can lead to the eventual loss of touch with our true personal beliefs, our own inner wisdom. It usually takes place unconsciously, completely out of our sense of awareness, but in time, this way of living eventually comes into our awareness as emotional, behavioral, or medicinal complaints.

That said, you could see how the Rogerian Model can apply to a variety of psychological ailments. For this reason, the Rogerian Model is considered by many to be the basic foundation of the majority of therapeutic models used today. Rather than describing a contrived list of activities to do within each session, this model describes a way of being for both therapist and client. It has been my experience that this model fits quite nicely as a foundation when implementing other models, such as Existentialism, Gestalt, Cognitive Behavioral, Solution-Focused Brief, Filial, and hypno- therapies (don’t worry if you do not know what these mean right now, we can discuss them when needed as our work together unfolds).


The topics I specialize in and types of clients I have successfully helped include:

  • at-risk children and adolescents in schools and juvenile hall facilities
  • adults on probation needing support with reintegration into the community and substance abuse/dependency relapse prevention
  • children and adolescents experiencing emotional outbursts due to family dysfunction, divorce, and chronic medical conditions
  • adolescents and children in court-involved custody disputes and family reunification
  • young adults experiencing gender fluidity needing support with identity development and securing necessary medical services for hormone treatment
  • couple’s therapy for husbands and wives who are not sure if the marriage is worth saving
  • blended families who needed help developing functioning family systems
  • adolescents who have difficulty socializing with peers, either by isolating or acting out aggressively
  • children, couples, and families in relationships containing domestic violence
  • children who are hyperactive or have trouble concentrating at school
  • adolescents and adults needing help with substance abuse/dependency
  • adults contemplating going to college or making career changes
  • individuals nervous about medical procedures
  • depressed, frightened, or angry clients experiencing chronic pain
  • adults and adolescents needing help to overcome the trauma of sexual abuse and domestic violence

The overriding theme in the cases above is a disconnection from self and others and the use of the Person-Centered Model as a foundation combined with various other models, including those listed in the paragraph above, to help them find relief. As you can see, I have helped many types of clients facing a vast array of challenges. Even if you do not see your personal challenge listed here, there is still a good chance I can help you.      

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Last Updated January 4, 2016